When your own wellbeing is compromised, it’s incredibly difficult to look after your children’s wellbeing. Especially in the longer term. Self care is not a luxury. It’s not selfish and it doesn’t mean you don’t love your children as much as yourself. Self care is something all mums need and deserve. Think “me too” rather than “me first”. I am passionate about making self care manageable and realistic in the midst of the chaos of motherhood. Here you’ll find lots of inspiration, tips and examples to help you look after yourself. You matter too.
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Every week on 89.9 The Light, I answer questions from mothers navigating the realities of modern motherhood. These conversations aren't about having all the answers. They're about making sense of experiences that so many women carry, often believing they're the only...
Every week on 89.9 The Light, I answer questions from mothers and talk about navigating the realities of modern motherhood. No two families are the same, so these conversations aren't about giving one right answer. They're about helping women better understand what's...
Why you don’t feel like yourself anymore Many mothers arrive at a point when they realise they don't quite recognise themselves anymore. It's often difficult to explain. From the outside, life might look exactly as they imagined it would. They love their children....
One day I noticed how many thoughts in my head started with “I have to…”. I have to reply to that message. I have to organise school forms. I have to keep on top of work. I have to exercise. I have to clean the kitchen. I have to be patient. I have to remember that...
"Baby brain.” “Mum brain.” We’ve all heard these terms and possibly used them after forgetting an appointment, walking into a room and wondering why we are there, or putting the milk in the pantry instead of the fridge. For years, the idea that motherhood makes women...
When I was little, I was known as “the good girl.” Quiet, easy and well behaved. I hardly spoke in class because I was painfully shy (sometimes I even felt tears welling up if the teacher said my name for something good!). I worried about getting things wrong,...
You know those moments where someone puts words to something you’ve felt… but never quite known how to explain? That was this conversation. If you’ve never heard the term matrescence before, I share more about it here. I was invited onto radio station 8.99 The Light,...
You might recognise this particular kind of fatigue. The kind that comes from being capable for so long. From being the one people rely on. From holding things together quietly, competently, without complaint. Until one day, you notice the question forming underneath...
If you’re feeling stuck in a decision right now, you’re not alone. And you’re not failing. I see this pattern constantly with the women I work with. Smart, capable, thoughtful women who can make complex decisions at work… yet feel completely paralysed when it comes to...
If you're reading this as a working mother with flexible working arrangements, chances are you've felt that familiar knot in your stomach. The one that tightens when you need to leave for school pickup, when you decline the 4pm meeting, or when you catch a colleague's...
Life can be challenging, and those challenges often feel relentless. Juggling paid work, domestic duties, mothering, other responsibilities, our wellbeing and personal aspirations is tough. We’re constantly offered well-meaning advice to "look on the bright side" or...
Just as I find myself settling into the rhythm of school term, feeling more at ease with managing my paid work, the school run and other activities, other parents start talking about the next school holidays! They really do come around so quickly! School holidays are...