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One day I noticed how many thoughts in my head started with “I have to…”. I have to reply to that message. I have to organise school forms. I have to keep on top of work. I have to exercise. I have to clean the kitchen. I have to be patient. I have to remember that...
When I was little, I was known as “the good girl.” Quiet, easy and well behaved. I hardly spoke in class because I was painfully shy (sometimes I even felt tears welling up if the teacher said my name for something good!). I worried about getting things wrong,...
Returning to work after kids isn’t just a logistics problem. It’s an identity shift. You go back to work. On paper, everything looks fine. But underneath that, it feels harder than it should. You’re more tired than you thought you’d be. Things that used to feel simple...
You might recognise this particular kind of fatigue. The kind that comes from being capable for so long. From being the one people rely on. From holding things together quietly, competently, without complaint. Until one day, you notice the question forming underneath...
If you’re feeling stuck in a decision right now, you’re not alone. And you’re not failing. I see this pattern constantly with the women I work with. Smart, capable, thoughtful women who can make complex decisions at work… yet feel completely paralysed when it comes to...
The beliefs we hold form the lens through which we view and interpret the world around us and all our experiences. They help us make sense of situations and inform our decisions and actions. This happens both consciously and subconsciously. Some of our beliefs support...
There is no shortage of things we can worry about in motherhood, regardless of what stage we are in. Worry is thinking about all the potentially negative (from your perspective) possibilities that could eventuate in the future. The what-ifs. Sometimes these...
Society tells us that perfectionism is a good thing. Perhaps you too have been praised and rewarded for your high capacity, high standards, and meticulous work. You may have also believed that perfectionism was the same as trying your best and showing your commitment...
Do you know what your personal values are? Defining and aligning to our personal values can help us feel motivated, inspired and live a rich and meaningful life. When we know what’s most important to us we can look for ways to have more of this in our lives. In...
Automatic negative thoughts (ANTs) are stories that we tell ourselves that aren’t necessarily true. They are distortions or negative interpretations of ourselves, what is happening around us, the past or the future, based on our beliefs and assumptions. ANTs happen...
Letting go is a lesson and practice we live through over and over again. Life continues to present us with new opportunities to let go and sometimes we have such a tight grip on things, it takes several attempts to fully release. I love this quote from Ahjan Chah: “If...
Dear Perfectionism, I’ve decided it’s time we parted ways. We’ve been together a long time. I’m not even sure how it happened, but somewhere in childhood you became my constant companion. You came with me into adulthood and by that time I thought you were an asset. I...