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If you’re feeling stuck in a decision right now, you’re not alone. And you’re not failing. I see this pattern constantly with the women I work with. Smart, capable, thoughtful women who can make complex decisions at work… yet feel completely paralysed when it comes to...
If you're reading this as a working mother with flexible working arrangements, chances are you've felt that familiar knot in your stomach. The one that tightens when you need to leave for school pickup, when you decline the 4pm meeting, or when you catch a colleague's...
Have you ever sat in a meeting, listening to your colleagues speak, and thought, I don’t really belong here? Do you ever downplay your achievements, second-guess your abilities, or fear that one day, everyone will realise you’re not as capable as they think? If so,...
Our brains are constantly on the lookout for things that might harm us and in doing so, they create a lot of difficult thoughts. These thoughts might relate to pain from the past, challenges we are facing in the present or fear about the future. Positive thinking is...
There is no shortage of things we can worry about in motherhood, regardless of what stage we are in. Worry is thinking about all the potentially negative (from your perspective) possibilities that could eventuate in the future. The what-ifs. Sometimes these...
Have you ever called yourself a bad mum, either out loud or in your mind? I certainly have and I know many other mums have too. I’ve been thinking about this label that we use. Why is it so prevalent? What does it even mean? And what is the impact of using it? I’m...
Society tells us that perfectionism is a good thing. Perhaps you too have been praised and rewarded for your high capacity, high standards, and meticulous work. You may have also believed that perfectionism was the same as trying your best and showing your commitment...
Automatic negative thoughts (ANTs) are stories that we tell ourselves that aren’t necessarily true. They are distortions or negative interpretations of ourselves, what is happening around us, the past or the future, based on our beliefs and assumptions. ANTs happen...
Sadness, burnout, fear, guilt, anxiety, loneliness, frustration, anger, resentment, shame, embarrassment, disgust. Mothers feel them. But often we don’t like to talk about them. What will people think? If perfect mum is always composed, in control, calm, happy, on top...
So many mums feel like they are not good enough, every day. This feeling goes beyond mum guilt (which is already a challenge). Feeling not good enough creates shame within us. Brene Brown defines the difference between guilt and shame: “I believe that guilt is...
Enjoy every moment It’s the sort of thing that well-meaning people say when you’re preparing for the birth of your baby. They also say it when you’re talking wistfully about how fast your children are growing up. Or when you’re sharing something about mum life that...
Do you ever feel like some day, someone is going to find out that you’re a great big fraud!? That someone is going to realise that you: Aren’t as good a mum as you seem to be Aren’t coping as well as you “should” be Have no idea what you’re doing in raising your...
