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Do you feel like you’re constantly comparing yourself or being compared to the ideal of a perfect mother? With so much information and advice out there “helping” us to get things “right” so that our children will be the most intelligent, happiest and the most...
Alone time is an important part of caring for our wellbeing. Having time to just be who we are, to rest and relax, helps us feel happier, healthier, more energised and refreshed. Without it, in the long run, we can start to see negative impacts to our mental,...
It’s almost a cultural script at this point: once you become a mother, exhaustion is just part of the deal. People say it with a kind of resigned humour. “Sleep now while you can.” “You’ll never be rested again.” “This is what motherhood is.” And in many ways, it’s...
In my previous blog post, I wrote about how to say no with kindness and respect. While exploring the reasons that saying no is difficult, something came up that really resonated with the More to Mum community – people pleasing. I received numerous messages from mums,...
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You may have heard the word matrescence used to describe the transition into motherhood. For some women, simply discovering there is a name for what they are experiencing brings enormous relief, because becoming a mother can change far more than your daily routine. It...
Life comes with a multitude of success definitions In my years as a corporate workaholic, my success was defined by a whole lot of external measures. The number of hours I worked, the company I worked at, the hierarchical level of my position, the targets I hit, the...
So many mums feel like they are not good enough, every day. This feeling goes beyond mum guilt (which is already a challenge). Feeling not good enough creates shame within us. Brene Brown defines the difference between guilt and shame: “I believe that guilt is...
At the end of a long day, what plays on your mind? Is it something like any of these? The way you yelled at your son? That you were late to child care or school pick up because of your paid job? How you didn’t really listen when your daughter was telling you (for the...
When you hear the word ‘retreat’, what is the first thing you think of? Some people think of retreats as only being for mad yoga fans, people who want to sit in silence and meditate for days, or those who want to fast, juice, lose weight or climb up mountains. Some...
Let’s start with a bit of reflection. How many of these things do you do? Change your opinions or decisions to match other people’s, even if they don’t align with your values? Feel like you’re at the mercy of everyone else’s needs and priorities, with nothing left for...
Enjoy every moment It’s the sort of thing that well-meaning people say when you’re preparing for the birth of your baby. They also say it when you’re talking wistfully about how fast your children are growing up. Or when you’re sharing something about mum life that...